190- Nightly Motivation

Rather than sit around and think about those who could care less about you, get up, do something! Grab a pen, put it to paper, and get to know yourself. You’re worthy. Forget about what they say about you. They don’t live your life. They haven’t been through what you’ve been through. Don’t let anyone dictate your life. I know it’s hard, trust me, I do. When you start to feel anger, ask yourself why? Why am I angry? Why does it matter? You have a full life ahead of you, and like T.D. Jakes says “Unlock your mind. Their perception of you doesn’t matter, your perception of yourself does!”

Good night.

185- OCD Quote 

” What if you were you mother and you kept having doubts about drowning your baby in the bath? How would you talk about it then? … Or a gay man who kept having thoughts about tits when he made love to his husband? You’d keep it a secret for years; for your whole life, perhaps…and even though you had what the World Health Organization considers one of the ten most debilitating disorders in the world, not a soul would know” – Pure by Rose Bretecher

146- Different Ways to Cope With Anxiety

I have come across many suggestions on how to cope with anxiety, and some have helped and others have not. Here are some of the main coping techniques that many articles suggest:

Accept your anxiety- don’t try to fight it, because it will only make matters worse. I agree with this one, but in my experience, once the ball gets rolling it’s hard to stop. 

Take a deep breath– this can help to slow down your heart rate, and bring you back into the present. 

Focus on what you’re doing– don’t let your anxiety dictate your actions. As long as you can stay present, the anxiety will fade away on its own.

These are just a couple of suggestions that I found on this website where nine coping techniques are detailed: https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-to-reduce-anxiety-right-here-right-now/

As for the personal techniques that I use: 

1. Try to be still– Usually when I stay still, I am able to take a step back and look at the situation more clearly. I usually use questions like “Does this experience really deserve a reaction?” “Do you really want to go through this stress right now?” “What is there really to be afraid of?”

2. Drink some hot tea, or just plain old hot water– This usually helps me when I’m alone, and I start to worry randomly. I mean, I feel better instantly after I’ve had a steaming cup of tea.

3. Get creative– I usually try to write or draw, because I can easily use that same energy to create something great.

4. Get physical– dance around! Do a sport! Do some jumping jacks, anything, just get your body moving.

5. Read a great book/ watch a good movie- I mean, this by far has been the most helpful for me, because it feels great to be somewhere else without having to leave the comfort of my own room.

This is all I have for you guys this morning. Look out for my future posts, because I’ll be addressing anxiety and depression this whole week!

145- Morning Talks

I’ve been up for a while now, and the sun’s rays are beaming through my blinds at this moment. I’m listening to “Surreal” by James Vincent Mcmorrow, and for once in many mornings, I’m not waking up with a knot in the pit of my stomach. As I lay here, though, memories start to fade in and out against the melody of the song. Many of them are cringey to say the least, but I remind myself to enjoy this moment. I remind myself that I’m not there anymore, I’m here. It sure does feel good to be right here. 

My favorite lines of this song are definitely “You have come and placed your palm on my wrist, dragged me into the light, now I’m hoping I will be enough.” 

I will definitely be posting more about James Vincent Mcmorrow’s music, because it has honestly always been a comfort for me. Check him out if you have a chance. Have a great morning guys. 

143- Who Am I?

Out of all of the books that I have read so far, all of the authors say to ask myself “Who am I?” I mean, I ask myself this question and I’m not sure on what the answer is. They say that who we think we are is dictated by our history, which is our identity, but not who we really are. I was watching an awesome interview between Oprah and India Arie, and Arie said something that struck me. She said: “You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.” She left me speechless. I don’t think that I have ever thought of myself as a soul. The whole idea, or truth as it seems to be, is life shattering, but why don’t I feel it?

So I have asked myself this question more than I ever have in my life over the last couple of weeks, and I still haven’t come to any conclusion, or had any life altering epiphanies, but I thought that I’d throw this question out there to you guys. Who are you?

Have a great night. Look out for future posts!

140- Can We End Our Own Mental Suffering?

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer has been a great read so far. Singer talks about letting go of the external things that life throws at us, and work from within to center ourselves, which in turn can end our suffering. I have a couple of chapters left to read, but I thought I’d share a couple of profound quotes from the book with you guys.

Singer writes:

“Who have you ever allowed directly into your true inner self without the protection of your mental buffer? Nobody, not even yourself.”

“The moment you start seeing that you don’t like the people you used to like, the moment you start seeing that your life looks really different, the moment it all starts getting negative–let go. You should have let go before, but you didn’t.”

“Be an explorer. Witness it, and then it will go (emotions).”

“It’s none of your business. Just let things go. That’s what the Self does. Awareness does not fight; awareness releases. Awareness is simply aware while everything in the universe parades before it.”

“Once you learn that it’s okay to feel inner disturbances, and that they can no longer  disturb your seat of consciousness, you will be free.”

“The noise, the fear, the confusion, the constant changing of the inner energies– it can all stop.”

135- All You Must Hold Onto Is You: Anger and Resentment Part 3

Whenever I hear people say: “I’ll forgive, but I won’t forget,” I always feel like they might as well say that they don’t forgive. I mean, why hold on to the memory if you forgive the person? I understand that one can learn a lesson from certain experiences, but clinging to the memory doesn’t make us stronger, it just weakens us. I feel like my whole life has been about holding onto grudges, just so that I could feel like I was stronger than the person that wronged me. Honestly, it isn’t worth it. Not worth my physical health or my mental health, and it isn’t worth yours either.

Keep releasing the baggage. Don’t let it weigh you down. In the name of throwing away all of those burdens, I share with you, Erykah Badu’s “Bag Lady.” Just let it all go, guys.

 

 

129- Anger and Resentment

I don’t have a plan for this post tonight, but I will say that I have been feeling very angry lately. I’ve been spending quite some time alone these days, and some days I make great progress, but then tonight happens, and I want to kick and scream like the five year old child that still lives inside of me. It sucks, because just when I was feeling a bit stronger, just when I thought that I had everything all figured out, something gets in my way. As much as I want to forgive, I can’t. I feel like my anger keeps me safe, even though I know that’s not the case.

I’ve been angry for a long time, I’ve just always found a way to cope with it, whether it was with incessant laughter, or watching a good television show, I always found a way to distract myself from how I was feeling. I’m tired, though. I’m tired of being angry, so I just have to learn how to release and let go of all of my baggage.

Watch out for my future posts, because I’ll definitely be posting on this topic a lot more next week.