211- Nightly Motivation 3

You don’t need anyone to validate your struggle. There’s nothing that you’re given that you can’t handle. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can’t! And knowing this, there’s nothing that is going to deter you from your goals. You know what? I say, embrace the adversity. Embrace the challenge. Embrace the lies and comments made about you, because honestly, all you have to do now is work through the struggle. Don’t stress yourself out about anything else, just focus on making it through. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but when you do get through it, you’ll be all the happier and grateful that you fought such a battle in the first place!

Good night.

204- Nightly Motivation 2

I know I can’t be the only one who constantly thinks about their dreams and future goals, and think about how unattainable they seem sometimes. Tonight, though, I made sure to remind myself of those specific things, and I really let myself envision having them. If it was meant to be easy to achieve, it really wouldn’t be worth much. So, guys, as you lay on your pillows tonight and think about your future, try not to be afraid. Your dreams will come true as long as you believe and work towards them! Oprah Winfrey, Tyler Perry, Viola Davis, and the greats like them didn’t have it easy at all, but they pushed forward past all of the obstacles and became names that we will never forget. Trust in the process! Trust in yourselves! The journey is necessary, and like Yvonne Orji says: “the wait is sexy.”

Good night.

203- Things Are Feeling a Bit Better

 A little more than a month ago, I was in the worst shape of my life. I was honestly at the lowest point that I’ve ever seen myself, but I’m happy to say that I’m making it through. The intrusive thoughts and the anxiety that comes with them are not as strong, and lawd does that feel like a blessing, because I getting to the end of my rope. 

If you guys feel like you need extra help, do not be afraid to seek out help if you feel like your family or other people around you aren’t listening. There are tons of resources out there, there are suicide hotlines, and there is voluntary hospitalization (usually a three day stay) which I would highly recommend to anyone that is going through a tough time. Again, like I always say, don’t give up! Better days will come.

Good night.

National Suicide Hotline: 1800 273 8255

190- Nightly Motivation

Rather than sit around and think about those who could care less about you, get up, do something! Grab a pen, put it to paper, and get to know yourself. You’re worthy. Forget about what they say about you. They don’t live your life. They haven’t been through what you’ve been through. Don’t let anyone dictate your life. I know it’s hard, trust me, I do. When you start to feel anger, ask yourself why? Why am I angry? Why does it matter? You have a full life ahead of you, and like T.D. Jakes says “Unlock your mind. Their perception of you doesn’t matter, your perception of yourself does!”

Good night.

188- There is Hope

I just finished reading Pure by Rose Bretecher. It is a memoir in which a young woman details her eleven year battle with OCD, in which she was constantly bombarded with distressing intrusive thoughts. I deal with the exact same thing, and let me tell you, as I read each page of this book, I kept thinking how finally, finally, someone understood exactly what I was dealing with. If you don’t quite understand how intrusive thoughts work, this would be a great read, because Bretecher does a great job of describing just how debilitating it can be, especially when it comes to the subject matter of the fears.

I’m still in limbo. I’m still trying to find the right therapy, but after reading this, I feel like I can get through it. I feel like in time, I will go back to “normal,” go back to just living, go back to a time when I didn’t get anxious just walking down the street. It sucks that anyone has to deal with this, but I’m so happy that Rose Bretecher went through this, because out of all of the books that I have read so far, it  has been the greatest comfort to me. 

160- Quote of the Day

“The happiness derived from some secondary source is never deep. It is only a pale reflection of the joy of Being, the vibrant peace that you find within as you enter the state nonresistance. Being takes you beyond the polar opposites of the mind and frees you from dependency on form. Even if everything were to collapse and crumble all around you, you would still feel a deep inner core of peace. You may not be happy, but you will be at peace.”- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

146- Different Ways to Cope With Anxiety

I have come across many suggestions on how to cope with anxiety, and some have helped and others have not. Here are some of the main coping techniques that many articles suggest:

Accept your anxiety- don’t try to fight it, because it will only make matters worse. I agree with this one, but in my experience, once the ball gets rolling it’s hard to stop. 

Take a deep breath– this can help to slow down your heart rate, and bring you back into the present. 

Focus on what you’re doing– don’t let your anxiety dictate your actions. As long as you can stay present, the anxiety will fade away on its own.

These are just a couple of suggestions that I found on this website where nine coping techniques are detailed: https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-to-reduce-anxiety-right-here-right-now/

As for the personal techniques that I use: 

1. Try to be still– Usually when I stay still, I am able to take a step back and look at the situation more clearly. I usually use questions like “Does this experience really deserve a reaction?” “Do you really want to go through this stress right now?” “What is there really to be afraid of?”

2. Drink some hot tea, or just plain old hot water– This usually helps me when I’m alone, and I start to worry randomly. I mean, I feel better instantly after I’ve had a steaming cup of tea.

3. Get creative– I usually try to write or draw, because I can easily use that same energy to create something great.

4. Get physical– dance around! Do a sport! Do some jumping jacks, anything, just get your body moving.

5. Read a great book/ watch a good movie- I mean, this by far has been the most helpful for me, because it feels great to be somewhere else without having to leave the comfort of my own room.

This is all I have for you guys this morning. Look out for my future posts, because I’ll be addressing anxiety and depression this whole week!

145- Morning Talks

I’ve been up for a while now, and the sun’s rays are beaming through my blinds at this moment. I’m listening to “Surreal” by James Vincent Mcmorrow, and for once in many mornings, I’m not waking up with a knot in the pit of my stomach. As I lay here, though, memories start to fade in and out against the melody of the song. Many of them are cringey to say the least, but I remind myself to enjoy this moment. I remind myself that I’m not there anymore, I’m here. It sure does feel good to be right here. 

My favorite lines of this song are definitely “You have come and placed your palm on my wrist, dragged me into the light, now I’m hoping I will be enough.” 

I will definitely be posting more about James Vincent Mcmorrow’s music, because it has honestly always been a comfort for me. Check him out if you have a chance. Have a great morning guys.