146- Different Ways to Cope With Anxiety

I have come across many suggestions on how to cope with anxiety, and some have helped and others have not. Here are some of the main coping techniques that many articles suggest:

Accept your anxiety- don’t try to fight it, because it will only make matters worse. I agree with this one, but in my experience, once the ball gets rolling it’s hard to stop. 

Take a deep breath– this can help to slow down your heart rate, and bring you back into the present. 

Focus on what you’re doing– don’t let your anxiety dictate your actions. As long as you can stay present, the anxiety will fade away on its own.

These are just a couple of suggestions that I found on this website where nine coping techniques are detailed: https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-to-reduce-anxiety-right-here-right-now/

As for the personal techniques that I use: 

1. Try to be still– Usually when I stay still, I am able to take a step back and look at the situation more clearly. I usually use questions like “Does this experience really deserve a reaction?” “Do you really want to go through this stress right now?” “What is there really to be afraid of?”

2. Drink some hot tea, or just plain old hot water– This usually helps me when I’m alone, and I start to worry randomly. I mean, I feel better instantly after I’ve had a steaming cup of tea.

3. Get creative– I usually try to write or draw, because I can easily use that same energy to create something great.

4. Get physical– dance around! Do a sport! Do some jumping jacks, anything, just get your body moving.

5. Read a great book/ watch a good movie- I mean, this by far has been the most helpful for me, because it feels great to be somewhere else without having to leave the comfort of my own room.

This is all I have for you guys this morning. Look out for my future posts, because I’ll be addressing anxiety and depression this whole week!

145- Morning Talks

I’ve been up for a while now, and the sun’s rays are beaming through my blinds at this moment. I’m listening to “Surreal” by James Vincent Mcmorrow, and for once in many mornings, I’m not waking up with a knot in the pit of my stomach. As I lay here, though, memories start to fade in and out against the melody of the song. Many of them are cringey to say the least, but I remind myself to enjoy this moment. I remind myself that I’m not there anymore, I’m here. It sure does feel good to be right here. 

My favorite lines of this song are definitely “You have come and placed your palm on my wrist, dragged me into the light, now I’m hoping I will be enough.” 

I will definitely be posting more about James Vincent Mcmorrow’s music, because it has honestly always been a comfort for me. Check him out if you have a chance. Have a great morning guys. 

143- Who Am I?

Out of all of the books that I have read so far, all of the authors say to ask myself “Who am I?” I mean, I ask myself this question and I’m not sure on what the answer is. They say that who we think we are is dictated by our history, which is our identity, but not who we really are. I was watching an awesome interview between Oprah and India Arie, and Arie said something that struck me. She said: “You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.” She left me speechless. I don’t think that I have ever thought of myself as a soul. The whole idea, or truth as it seems to be, is life shattering, but why don’t I feel it?

So I have asked myself this question more than I ever have in my life over the last couple of weeks, and I still haven’t come to any conclusion, or had any life altering epiphanies, but I thought that I’d throw this question out there to you guys. Who are you?

Have a great night. Look out for future posts!

142- Girl, Put Your Records On

You guys guessed it, this is a song of the night post. I haven’t done one of these in a while, but this song popped into my head today, and I had to write about it.

It begins with a light guitar sound that ushers in a sweet, soulful melody that literally makes you feel like playing your favorite song and dancing around your room like no one is watching. The line that speaks to me the most is definitely”You’re gonna find yourself someway…somehow.” Not only is it hopeful, it shows me that I’m not the only person who feels lost, and who’s trying to find a way to “ge t[their] dreams,” as well as finding peace within. I mean, the video speaks volumes to how powerful and freeing it is just being outdoors. Rae says: “When you gonna realize that you don’t even have to try any longer? do what you want to,” which tells us that we don’t have to try so hard to be free, we are free.

I know that sometimes when we are in our own minds that it may not feel this way, but as long as we know this to be true, we will begin to live like we are soon enough.

That’s all I have for you guys tonight. Look out for another post sometime this week!

140- Can We End Our Own Mental Suffering?

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer has been a great read so far. Singer talks about letting go of the external things that life throws at us, and work from within to center ourselves, which in turn can end our suffering. I have a couple of chapters left to read, but I thought I’d share a couple of profound quotes from the book with you guys.

Singer writes:

“Who have you ever allowed directly into your true inner self without the protection of your mental buffer? Nobody, not even yourself.”

“The moment you start seeing that you don’t like the people you used to like, the moment you start seeing that your life looks really different, the moment it all starts getting negative–let go. You should have let go before, but you didn’t.”

“Be an explorer. Witness it, and then it will go (emotions).”

“It’s none of your business. Just let things go. That’s what the Self does. Awareness does not fight; awareness releases. Awareness is simply aware while everything in the universe parades before it.”

“Once you learn that it’s okay to feel inner disturbances, and that they can no longer  disturb your seat of consciousness, you will be free.”

“The noise, the fear, the confusion, the constant changing of the inner energies– it can all stop.”

135- All You Must Hold Onto Is You: Anger and Resentment Part 3

Whenever I hear people say: “I’ll forgive, but I won’t forget,” I always feel like they might as well say that they don’t forgive. I mean, why hold on to the memory if you forgive the person? I understand that one can learn a lesson from certain experiences, but clinging to the memory doesn’t make us stronger, it just weakens us. I feel like my whole life has been about holding onto grudges, just so that I could feel like I was stronger than the person that wronged me. Honestly, it isn’t worth it. Not worth my physical health or my mental health, and it isn’t worth yours either.

Keep releasing the baggage. Don’t let it weigh you down. In the name of throwing away all of those burdens, I share with you, Erykah Badu’s “Bag Lady.” Just let it all go, guys.

 

 

133- Anger and Resentment Part 2

I had originally written a previous post with this same title, but I decided to delete it because it was filled with hatred and an emotional attachment to the past. I mean, after I wrote the post, I thought that I felt better, but after some time passed, I felt a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew it was senseless of me to be holding on to that kind of pain. I mean, what happened already happened, and I’m doing just fine…so why complain? Right now I’m reading Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, and it is a great read. Very insightful. I will share a passage with you guys that caused me to think a little deeper about my anger. 

Eckhart writes: “They (women) are wrong if they derive a sense of self from this fact and thereby keep themselves imprisoned in a collective victim identity. If a woman is still holding on to anger and resentment, or condemnation, she is holding on to her pain-body. This may give her a comforting sense of identity, of solidarity with other women, but it is keeping her in bondage to the past and blocking full access to her essence and true power.”

That’s all for today folks! Look out for my next post on Wednesday.

129- Anger and Resentment

I don’t have a plan for this post tonight, but I will say that I have been feeling very angry lately. I’ve been spending quite some time alone these days, and some days I make great progress, but then tonight happens, and I want to kick and scream like the five year old child that still lives inside of me. It sucks, because just when I was feeling a bit stronger, just when I thought that I had everything all figured out, something gets in my way. As much as I want to forgive, I can’t. I feel like my anger keeps me safe, even though I know that’s not the case.

I’ve been angry for a long time, I’ve just always found a way to cope with it, whether it was with incessant laughter, or watching a good television show, I always found a way to distract myself from how I was feeling. I’m tired, though. I’m tired of being angry, so I just have to learn how to release and let go of all of my baggage.

Watch out for my future posts, because I’ll definitely be posting on this topic a lot more next week.

127- Mystery Blogger Award

Hey guys, I have been nominated for the Mystery Blogger Award. I would like to thank https://essencentral.wordpress.com/ for nominating me! Definitely go check her out, she has some great content! I would also like to thank https://okotoenigma.wordpress.com/ for creating this award.

Rules:

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. You have to nominate 10-20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any five questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
  9. Share a link to your best post(s)

Three things about myself:

  1. I’m obsessed with the show “Power”
  2. I love the color blue.
  3. I’m from Miami.

EssenCentral’s questions:

  1. If money was no object, what would your life look like right now? I’d be sitting on a beach somewhere.
  2. If your blog was a message to the whole world, what would it be saying? Life is tough, but we can make it a lot easier with self-awareness and dedication
  3. What fulfills you? This is a heavy question, not sure how to answer it lol.
  4. What do you owe yourself? Patience, compassion, and happiness
  5. And for the silly question… If you were an animal, which would you be? Like Nelly Furtado said: “I’m like a bird, I wanna fly away!”

I nominate:

SUSANNE LEIST

The Catalysts for Change

Call Me Trav

annjekins, Out crawls Ann..

Jay Colby

Mindfump.

josiah harry, SKYLARITY

Oh mz

niicolee00, Uninspired

MyRubiksCube

My questions:

What’s your favorite television show?

Why blog?

Best personality attribute?

If you could meet any celeb who would it be?

Name two countries you’d like to visit.

 

My best posts:

https://growthspurtweb.com/2017/02/12/day-118-im-the-friend-that-i-dont-want-to-lose/?iframe=true&theme_preview=true

https://growthspurtweb.com/2017/02/05/day-111-low-self-esteem-and-domestic-violence/?iframe=true&theme_preview=true