As you guys have seen from my previous posts, having low self-esteem can affect someone in all aspects of his life. I want to stress that it is not something that should be taken lightly. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t have a negative view of myself, and consequently, I can’t remember a time where I felt truly happy. I would laugh and have a good time, of course as a child you’re not aware of a lot of emotions you may be feeling, so it has taken me a long time (22 years) to figure this out. Here are some tips that I am currently using to help myself overcome this negative self-image:
- Awareness– This is the most important tip, because if you’re not aware of what’s going on, you won’t know that you actually need to change. Pay attention to your thoughts, because it’s all there. If you’re saying things like “that could never be me…well they’re just (blank) more than me…I can’t,” you have to evaluate your self-image.
- What others think doesn’t matter– This is still the most difficult one for me, because I have worried about what other individuals have thought about me– even when they weren’t thinking about me–my whole life. I know now, though, that honestly and truly, their opinions do not matter. You can’t let anyone ruin your happy moments.
- Don’t judge yourself– Just don’t do it! You may think you have to, but you don’t. Be compassionate to yourself, don’t wait for someone else to do it. If you don’t love and defend yourself, no one will!
- Seek professional help– Sometimes just talking to friends and family isn’t enough. For me, I felt that I had to invest in professional help, because I couldn’t work through everything alone. As much as your family will be there to support you and listen to you, it feels great to know that you have someone else who is there, specifically, to help you overcome these issues.
- Practice! Never give up on yourself. I will say this over and over again, if you don’t fight for yourself, no one else will! The work is not easy, but it’s worth it!
If you’re reading this, please look in the mirror and see how amazing you are, every day. You don’t need anyone to tell you that you’re beautiful! Stop looking for others’ validation– you validate yourself. You are smart, you are kind, and you are important–“The Help” is one of my favorite movies, I couldn’t help it. If you want to read more about this, you can visit: https://www.psychologies.co.uk/10-ways-overcome-low-self-esteem
That’s all for my series of posts on this specific topic. I will definitely keep you guys updated on my journey, and I would love for you guys to keep me updated on yours! Have a great day, and be on the look out for future posts.